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Ten Ways to Keep a Positive Perspective
Everybody goes through rough patches, times when they feel very alone or perhaps misunderstood by the world. Rough patches can sneak up on you. Things are going along just fine, and then one by one the little things add up and all of a sudden life feels intolerable, a trap set by surroundings or circumstances beyond your control. What do you do when you don’t know what to do? How do you find your way back to a positive perspective when you have forgotten how? Depression runs in my family and I am well-acquainted with the its defeating weight, with how desperate you feel when you’ve forgotten how to hope.…
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Learning How to Let Go
We read so much about letting go, and how what is meant for you will be there, and what isn’t meant for you will go, and it sounds so peaceful, this letting go. No one really ever explains how to let go. If you can manage to “let go”, this well-meaning advice makes it sound as if the experiences or the people you have come to love and want most in your life will just float by as if part of a grand river and what is meant for you will come to rest beside you, effortlessly, while the rest flows on. But letting go is hard, and often feels…
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Tiny Steps toward Your Best New Year
“And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.” –Rainer Maria Rilke I love the thought of a new year, especially on December 31st, when I think of all I will accomplish now that the calendar page has turned. Like many perfectionists (read borderline OCDs), however, if I don’t have a clean start on January 1st, I’d might as well forget it, or wait for another “clean start” at the six month point on June 1st, or even the following year. But at this point of my life, I realize that I don’t have full years or even six month increments to waste waiting for…